So in the recent past, I’ve been having troubles with my boyfriend, one bestfriend has started a new relationship, another has accepted that its time to move on from an old flame, and my third continues to ruin things before they even really get started; she’s indecisive to say the least. So this has gotten me thinking about love in general and why its something so exclusive to us. Needless to say this would be a post that would take me days to write and you hours to read, so I’m breaking it down into parts.
If you think about it, we are a very strange social creature. Monogamy is not a state we are programed for, none of our closest cousins do it. And yet a happy monogamous relationship is what we strive for. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for being in a relationship with just one person, but I’m just saying we can’t expect it to always be easy. We’re not vultures, gibbons, or my personal favourites; shistosoma worms.
Mo·nog·a·my: noun -më\
- A form of sexual bonding involving a permanent pair bond between two beings
- archaic : the practice of marrying only once during a lifetime
- the condition or practice of having a single mate during a period of time
Now I realize that the third definition is the most used in modern society, but for the sake of argument, I’m going with definition number 1.
Imagine if you were bonded to the first person you had sex with ever. I’m sure that’s a scary thought for some people. It would make that drunken night with that ugly frat boy something to regret even more than it already is don’t you think. Also, I’m pretty sure swans and penguins don’t take into consideration snoring, awful jokes or an inability to cook anything other than KD when choosing their partner.
So no, I don’t think we can look to monogamous animals as a model, or a lot of us would be stuck with crappy life partners for sure.
But just for interests sake, here’s a little bit about the worlds most monogamous animal, the schistosoma worm.
They may not offer the conventional image of love, but these parasitic worms are usually far more faithful than the humans they inhabit. As unromantic as it sounds, they cause the disease schistosomiasis, also known as snail fever. When they reproduce sexually within the human body, they form loyal monogamous pair bonds that typically last the entire cycle.